十歲以前，他什麼都不懂，就不說了。
十三、四歲的時候，開始對女孩有好感，但是那時候他離女孩遠遠的，並且以討厭女孩自居，生怕被同伴嘲笑。
十五歲的時候，聽到大人們說某某男人好花，把女朋友甩了，女孩自殺了。
他覺得這人真狠毒，自己將來一定要做個癡情的男人，一定要一生只愛一個人。
十六歲的時候，他喜歡上了一個女孩，但是他不敢和她說。仍然和往常一樣，臟兮兮的在灰土飛揚的操場上踢球。只在女孩走出校門的時候，躲在二層的窗戶上看她的背影，他覺得她一定是個天使。
十七歲的時候，有個女孩喜歡上了他，但是他離她很遠，心裏面只有自己那個女孩，他覺得看別的女孩都是對她的不忠。
十八歲的時候，看了一個MTV，感動得想哭；他想，如果自己的女孩失去了雙眼，他一定會像男主角會毫不猶豫的把自己的眼睛給她，讓她能看到光明。
十九歲的時候，高考了。終於和自己暗戀的女孩分別，坐火車去學校的時候，感覺自己離她越來越遠，心像被掏空了一樣。還在想自己一定不會忘記她，等到自己成功以後一定要去找她。
二十歲的時候，聽到有人講黃色笑話，覺得這人真可恥。
二十一歲的時候，她的回信中告訴他，自己有了男朋友。他為此偷偷的哭了一個晚上。
二十二歲的時候，他向一個女孩表白，女孩說：「你是個好人，可是我還小。」他想，我的確是個好人，然後他說：「沒關係，我可以等妳。」
心想，我不會像那些花心的人一樣，三年五年我也能等。
二十三歲的時候，聽說自己還小的女孩跟一個帥哥戀愛了。他很納悶，長大原來可以這樣快。
二十四歲的時候，他又向一個女孩表白，女孩說：「你是個好人，可是我並不適合你。」他納悶很久，我是好人，妳怎麼還不適合我呢？
二十五歲的時候，他又追求一個女孩，女孩接受了他。他開始很幸福的為未來拼搏，他想，一時的開心只是暫時的，只有努力拼搏，他和她才能有快樂的未來，但是，半年以後，女孩和他分手了，只是因為另外一個男孩會說讓她開心的話。女孩說：「你是個好人，是我對不起你。」
至此，他似乎明白了問題所在－－他是個好人！
二十六歲的時候，他開始墮落。打扮得時尚而酷，而且漸漸的學習著討好女孩的話。不久，他有了個女朋友，雖然他對她也很好，可是，他心裏知道，自己並不愛。
二十七歲的時候，他和女孩分手了。他對女孩說：「妳是個好女孩，是我對不起妳。」
二十八歲的時候，他嘗試了一夜情，發現別人能做的，自己也一樣。
二十九歲的時候，他學會了講黃色笑話，並且以看旁邊的女孩子臉紅為樂趣。
三十歲的時候，他忽然發現自己變得很有能力追求到女孩，但是卻沒有了愛的能力。
其實每個男孩，本來都是想做一個感情專一的好男人的。
其實每個男人，本來看女孩子都是看臉而不是身材。
其實每個男人，本來都是不會講黃色笑話的。
其實每個男孩，本來都是渴望愛一個人直到永遠的。
只是，沒有任何女孩愛這樣的男孩，她們覺得這樣的男孩太幼稚，太古板，沒有情趣。
於是男孩開始改變，變成女孩喜歡的那種 嘴角掛著壞壞表情。
開始學會說甜言蜜語而不是心裏想說的話。
開始學會假裝關心，學會給女孩送小飾物討好她，學會如何追求，如何把握愛情。
或者看破紅塵，遊戲情場，成為女人恨恨的那種男人。
他們可以很容易俘獲女孩子的心，但是他們也會在黑的夜裏叼著煙流淚。
心裏有愛的時候，沒有女孩；有了女孩，卻永遠沒有了愛的感覺！
當男人聽到女人抱怨世上沒有一個好男人時候，他們不會再去努力做個好男人，只是微笑著擦肩而過。
所以結論就是...
當你的身邊出現一個對感情傻酣酣...也許生活沒有情趣...
也許嘴巴不甜...也許囉嗦...也許長得不出色...也許對於自己感情執著
對於愛情充滿憧憬的男人
請不要再傷害他們...請不要再抱怨天底下的好男人都死哪去了
因為....他們出現時妳們不曾珍惜過......
2008年3月14日星期五
Positive Thinking @ The way you think often affects the outcome of your actions
News Clipping : The Strait Times 10 May 2007 Recruit p.C28
Author : By Alan Fairweather
我的序言: 我一位尊重的朋友給我最失意的時候給我看的一份剪報, 我不單熟背內容, 還即打入電腦, 傳給同事看. 看完後... 整個人積極了百倍, 它對我日後工作上的成功有非常大的影響力, 讓我分享它成功之方法 :
The way you think often affects the outcome of your actions
Let me tell you a quick story. When I was working in the beer industry, I was intrigued (耍陰謀) by our top 10 successful bar-and-hotel owning customers. The majority of them, to put it tactfully, did not seem to be particularly sophisticated business people. In other words, they did not seem to have had any kind of business training or acquired any qualifications.
I asked my boss how these people had become so successful. He said “They don’t know they can’t do it. You and I see the pitfalls (陷阱), we know about business and we see all the ways we can fail. These people only see how they’ll succeed.”
This was a powerful message – these successful business owners were talking to themselves in a much more positive way than less successful people.
Your level of success in terms of your happiness, emotional well-being and anything else you desire is a direct result of how you talk to yourselves. The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourselves.
Listen to the self-talk that goes on in your head and ask yourself: “Is what I’m saying allowing me to be confident on top and going for it.”
“or is it holding me back and stopping me from achieving my goals.” If this is the case, you have to change tracks.
Talking to yourself in a positive manner will help you to feel physically better. Words have an enormous power to create change in the chemistry of your body. Your heart rate, blood pressure, muscles, nerves and breathing will all react to the words you say to yourself.
Take a moment to say some words to yourself such as holidays, warm sunshine, sandy beaches, swimming, chilled beer, delicious food. Are you starting to get good feelings? Or maybe words like home, family, children or Christmas make you feel good.
So think about the things you say to yourself and make every statement in the present tense. For example, do not say: “I’m going to make a success of this business" or “I’m going to get organized” or “I’m going to be much more confident”.
Say: “I am totally in control of my life. I am totally confident and positive. I’m achieving my goals. I have determination and drive.”
What you are actually doing here is re-programming your subconscious (潛在意識). If you talk to yourself in a positive way, that is what your subconscious will focus on.
Top sportsmen know that they need to talk to themselves in a positive way to be successful. Research has proved that the success of the world’s top golfers is determined by 20 percent physical ability and 80 percent mental ability. In your day-to-day tasks, you should be no different from sportsmen.
If you talk to yourself in a negative way, that is what your subconscious will focus on. If you think illness, you will become ill. If you think doom and gloom, that is what you will get. But if you think health happiness and success, you are on your way to achieving all of this.
Let me finish with a short story. In the city where I live, finding a car parking lot can be difficult. Say for example I need to visit a bookstore and I decide to take my car I say to myself: “I’m going to park my car outside the bookstore.”
If I have someone with me, he will inevitably say: “You’re nuts, Alan, you’ll never get parked there, far better to park several blocks away in a quieter area.”
And guess what most of the time I get to park outside the bookstore. It does not happen all the time, but talking to yourself in a positive way is much more likely to get you the results you want.
Put this to the test right away. For the next seven days, listen to what you say to yourself and if it is negative, change it to something more positive. You will start to feel better, look better and have much more success in what you do.
Author : By Alan Fairweather
我的序言: 我一位尊重的朋友給我最失意的時候給我看的一份剪報, 我不單熟背內容, 還即打入電腦, 傳給同事看. 看完後... 整個人積極了百倍, 它對我日後工作上的成功有非常大的影響力, 讓我分享它成功之方法 :
The way you think often affects the outcome of your actions
Let me tell you a quick story. When I was working in the beer industry, I was intrigued (耍陰謀) by our top 10 successful bar-and-hotel owning customers. The majority of them, to put it tactfully, did not seem to be particularly sophisticated business people. In other words, they did not seem to have had any kind of business training or acquired any qualifications.
I asked my boss how these people had become so successful. He said “They don’t know they can’t do it. You and I see the pitfalls (陷阱), we know about business and we see all the ways we can fail. These people only see how they’ll succeed.”
This was a powerful message – these successful business owners were talking to themselves in a much more positive way than less successful people.
Your level of success in terms of your happiness, emotional well-being and anything else you desire is a direct result of how you talk to yourselves. The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourselves.
Listen to the self-talk that goes on in your head and ask yourself: “Is what I’m saying allowing me to be confident on top and going for it.”
“or is it holding me back and stopping me from achieving my goals.” If this is the case, you have to change tracks.
Talking to yourself in a positive manner will help you to feel physically better. Words have an enormous power to create change in the chemistry of your body. Your heart rate, blood pressure, muscles, nerves and breathing will all react to the words you say to yourself.
Take a moment to say some words to yourself such as holidays, warm sunshine, sandy beaches, swimming, chilled beer, delicious food. Are you starting to get good feelings? Or maybe words like home, family, children or Christmas make you feel good.
So think about the things you say to yourself and make every statement in the present tense. For example, do not say: “I’m going to make a success of this business" or “I’m going to get organized” or “I’m going to be much more confident”.
Say: “I am totally in control of my life. I am totally confident and positive. I’m achieving my goals. I have determination and drive.”
What you are actually doing here is re-programming your subconscious (潛在意識). If you talk to yourself in a positive way, that is what your subconscious will focus on.
Top sportsmen know that they need to talk to themselves in a positive way to be successful. Research has proved that the success of the world’s top golfers is determined by 20 percent physical ability and 80 percent mental ability. In your day-to-day tasks, you should be no different from sportsmen.
If you talk to yourself in a negative way, that is what your subconscious will focus on. If you think illness, you will become ill. If you think doom and gloom, that is what you will get. But if you think health happiness and success, you are on your way to achieving all of this.
Let me finish with a short story. In the city where I live, finding a car parking lot can be difficult. Say for example I need to visit a bookstore and I decide to take my car I say to myself: “I’m going to park my car outside the bookstore.”
If I have someone with me, he will inevitably say: “You’re nuts, Alan, you’ll never get parked there, far better to park several blocks away in a quieter area.”
And guess what most of the time I get to park outside the bookstore. It does not happen all the time, but talking to yourself in a positive way is much more likely to get you the results you want.
Put this to the test right away. For the next seven days, listen to what you say to yourself and if it is negative, change it to something more positive. You will start to feel better, look better and have much more success in what you do.
讓我送一份 @ 禮物 @ 給你
書名 - 禮物 (The Present)
作書 - Spencer Johnson
我的序言 :
2007年9月的一個晚上講座上, 導師向百名聽眾問 : "你們想開心嗎? 我有一本書, 你看了以後你將會非常開心"
只有我一隻手舉起, 並面紅耳赤地答 : "我想", 那時期的我處於人生低潮, 極不愉快. 最後我得了這本書.
我咀嚼每行每字, 雖不能完全令我開心, 但它令我人生得了明燈, 就讓我分享它的神奇魔法 :
它指出了三種方法來享受工作和生活 :
[1] 把握此刻
當你想過得快樂更高效的時候,
專注於現在好的方面, 並全力做好現在最重要的事.
[2] 向過去學習
當你想讓現在比過去更好的時候,
審視過去發生的事情, 從中吸取經驗教訓, 今天就采取不同的做法.
[3] 着手創造將來
當你想讓將來比現在更好的時候,
想像一個美好的將來是什麼樣的, 制定一個切實可行的計劃.
今天就做些事情使之成真.
明確你的目標, 發掘讓你的工作和生活更有意義的方法.
作書 - Spencer Johnson
我的序言 :
2007年9月的一個晚上講座上, 導師向百名聽眾問 : "你們想開心嗎? 我有一本書, 你看了以後你將會非常開心"
只有我一隻手舉起, 並面紅耳赤地答 : "我想", 那時期的我處於人生低潮, 極不愉快. 最後我得了這本書.
我咀嚼每行每字, 雖不能完全令我開心, 但它令我人生得了明燈, 就讓我分享它的神奇魔法 :
它指出了三種方法來享受工作和生活 :
[1] 把握此刻
當你想過得快樂更高效的時候,
專注於現在好的方面, 並全力做好現在最重要的事.
[2] 向過去學習
當你想讓現在比過去更好的時候,
審視過去發生的事情, 從中吸取經驗教訓, 今天就采取不同的做法.
[3] 着手創造將來
當你想讓將來比現在更好的時候,
想像一個美好的將來是什麼樣的, 制定一個切實可行的計劃.
今天就做些事情使之成真.
明確你的目標, 發掘讓你的工作和生活更有意義的方法.
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